To be a loving person we must learn to hold a loving space for people we are in relationships with at all times. This means when they are doing things we agree with and when they are doing things we don't like.
This is where compassion comes in. When we are approaching a situation from a place of lack and someone we are in relationship with is doing something we don't like, we blame him or her for not meeting our needs. But when we enter a relationship from a place of fullness, we see that the other person is doing the best they can with what they have.
This means that whatever they are doing has no effect on our happiness because we are already full from within and, as we bring that fullness to the situation, our resentment or anger transforms into compassion and gratitude. And from this place of fullness we can BRING the love to the relationship, instead of trying to extract it.
And when we BRING the love, we create a space in our relationships where not only do WE transform as people, but we create a space for the other person to transform and to feel safe instead of judged. And when we feel safe and accepted we feel loved, and when we feel loved we let our heart out to play much more often.
This is one of the major benefits of bringing the love instead of trying to extract it. The strong person brings the love, knowing they are already full. The strong person holds a space of love and compassion for anyone they are in relationship with when the other person is not acting how we would like and in this way transforms fear into love within the relationship.
This is what we are called to do: bring the love.
Are you bringing it today?